Couples Therapy Copenhagen

Couples Therapy in English

Seeking Couples Therapy with an English-Speaking, Male, and Experienced Couples Therapist in Copenhagen? On this page, you can read more about my therapy services, who I am, my values, and my methods.

Couples Therapy Can Help If…

• You have discovered infidelity in the relationship
• You are amid an acute crisis and considering divorce
• You lack closeness, intimacy, and love in the relationship
• You have poor communication and frequent crises

About Couples Therapist Henrik Biering

Welcome to Biering Therapy for Couples. My name is Henrik Biering, I am 61 years old, and I have extensive experience in therapy and self-development. I graduated as a gestalt therapist (MPF psychotherapist) in 2010 and as a couple’s therapist in 2011, with a lifetime of experience in therapy and self-development.

I offer couples therapy to couples who are stuck in conflicts and crises. I have particularly good experience working with infidelity and occasionally meet couples on the brink of divorce. The goal of the therapy is to create more clarity around the problem you seek to solve. It is an examination of your reality as it is right now.

Values and Methods

Being a therapist is like having a craft. I take great professional pride in my work. My tools are effective, and I am skilled at using them in both a gentle and respectful manner. The therapy is flexibly adapted to what you as a couple need. Alongside my craft, I have a broad range of knowledge and experience with mindfulness, body awareness, sexuality, etc., which are incorporated as needed.

How Does Couples Therapy Work?

In the first session, I get an overview of what is holding you back as a couple. You get an extra half hour the first time to lay out a plan for how you can find better harmony again. The goal of the therapy is to create more clarity around the problem you seek to solve. I listen curiously and respectfully. My style is both direct and gentle. I highlight the issues each of you needs to work on and what you need to cooperate on directly. In good couples therapy, we work with the reality as it is right now. Reality works, and that way, you get the most for your money.

I have good experience working in a combination of couples and individual therapy. This means that each of you can attend individual therapy with me while also undergoing couple’s therapy. The insights you gain can be shared with your partner and used in couple’s therapy. It is an effective way to conduct therapy because it allows for more focused work on the issues each of you brings into the relationship. The therapy is flexibly adapted to what you as a couple need. Alongside my therapist training, I have a broad range of knowledge and experience with mindfulness, body awareness, sexuality, etc., which are incorporated as needed.

Why Go to Couples Therapy?

Habits and certain patterns can take control in your relationship, making them almost impossible to notice and change on your own. Often, conflicts stem from each person’s way of being in close relationships, like how we learned from our childhood families. These are driven by reactions and defenses we learned to use as children. It doesn’t mean you have chosen the wrong partner. It only means you are challenged on your often unconscious ideals.

Couples Therapy – Before, During, and After Divorce

It can have significant emotional and social costs to separate, and if you have children together, they may pay the price. Nonetheless, it may be right and best to separate, but if there is such a thing as a good divorce, it is worth striving for. Divorces can sometimes be marked by ongoing power struggles and disputes that can ruin the lives of everyone involved.

What Does Couples Therapy Aim to Do?

– (Re)find love, intimacy, mutual understanding, vulnerability, and sensuality between you.

– Learn to know each other on a deeper level. Listen and give each other more space.

– Simply put: Get better at being present in the moment when you are together.

I believe you never fall in love with the wrong person. It is common to be most hurt by those we are most intimately connected with and feel dependent on. It can be a big challenge to learn to listen to each other in difficult conversations. It is easy for me to hear how you talk past each other, and I have various tools to help improve communication and contact between you.

Seeing Each Other Is One of the Most Important Qualities in a Relationship

You may find that you go from assuming a lot about each other, and maybe having preconceived notions, to seeing each other more openly as you are. As soon as you understand how you fail to understand each other and integrate better ways to interact, the therapy can end. Therefore, I recommend initially five sessions of 90 minutes each, which is enough to understand how you talk past each other in everyday life.

Often, it turns out that one or both of you have baggage from childhood experiences of neglect, loneliness, abandonment, or abuse. In some cases, these experiences can be placed and processed in couples therapy, so one party works individually with the other as a witness. This often leads to a deeper understanding of the partner and increased togetherness.

Tailored Offer

A good option can be to combine couples therapy with individual therapy. I will tailor a course that suits your needs: After the first couples therapy session, we will determine together what serves you best, and I will provide a proposal for a therapy course alternating between couples therapy and individual therapy for both of you and for the one who needs it most. Note: For your first couple session, I offer 120 minutes, so we have time for everything.

Couples Therapy Can Be the Best Investment of Your Life

Read more about my offers of packages with great discounts when purchasing clip cards for couples therapy and individual therapy – and combinations of couples and individual therapy under prices.

Testimonial from a Couple Who Moved Forward Together After an Intensive Couples Therapy Course:

“Henrik’s approach to couples therapy – where he uses both individual and couples therapy – is incredibly engaging, creates a sense of security, and provides great insight into one’s own ‘responsibility’ and how beliefs affect one’s partner. Henrik creates the framework for openly and honestly fighting for the changes needed to create renewed value in the relationship. We have truly felt seen by Henrik and can warmly recommend him. Henrik, you have changed our lives – THANK YOU SO MUCH!”